With a lot of different opinions in the world today, I wanted to touch on the subject of husbands and wives having an equal partnership. Many believe husband and wives are not equal because of their different responsibilities to the family, but what is important to note is that just because responsibilities are different does not make them equally important. The Family: A proclamation to the world says this;
HUSBAND AND WIFE have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children…Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.
I’d like to focus on this passage, mostly because it talks about the responsibility both parents have for their children. Many families may achieve these responsibilities and goals in different ways depending on their own family situation, although the Family proclamation states the mother and father’s role int the family, it is important for both husband and wife to focus on the overall goal that the Proclamation states; “…have solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and their children.” The traditional family would state the mother should stay home, and nurture for the children while the husband works and focuses on his career in order to support the family. This is a wonderful way to have a family, and in this traditional family setting the roles are different, but still equal. I know many families where both the husband and wife work, where the husband works but the wife goes to school, or even the wife works while the husband goes to school. I know of a family where the husband stays home and the wife works, each family has a different dynamic, but the important part about this dynamic is focusing on raising the children and focusing on the teachings of the Lord, Jesus Christ.
When we look at a football game and focus on the different players, each player is important to the game and has special talents and abilities that allows their team to win and progress. Each player has a different role, a different play through, and a different responsibility but still equal. It is the same in a family, and the same in a marriage. As we have our own families and meet other families we must not be quick to judge each marriage and family but focus on how we can better ourselves.
How husbands and wives can have an equal partnership, is by establishing goals they have for their families together. once goals are established together, then a husband and wife can both help to nourish those goals. Another suggestion in helping maintain an equal relationship is to have constant communication on ways where none or the other may feel the relationship is not equal. When having good communication where both husband and wife are heard then both can have say in the relationship and both can contribute. While having goo communication and keeping goals in mind, husband and wife can maintain an equal relationship where both can use their different talents and personalities to build and work toward one overall goal.