Marital Vows and Fidelity (FAML 100 Topic #4)

The most important thing to understand about the law of chastity is that it still needs to be kept even after marriage and that the law of chastity doesn’t just mean to have sex with someone who isn’t your spouse. There is physical infidelity, and emotional infidelity which is more common. The Family:A Proclamation to The World says this about chastity;

WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God.

the importance of keeping fidelity in marriage is said right in our covenants that we make in the temple. We need to stay committed to our spouse. In the world today cheating, not keeping marital vows is a normal thing and happens often, and they even make the consequences of those actions not true to real life. When we are not faithful to our spouse, that not only put the marriage at risk, but the children as well.

Emotional infidelity is more common than physical. Many will get caught in the idea of move romance, or think highly of someone else and then replace their husband. In one of my marriage classes we discussed a story of  a young newly married woman. She dated another guy right before he went on his mission, and then while he was on his mission she met and married her now husband. When her ex came back from his mission she ran into him while at college, the first meeting was harmless just two friends catching up, but she found herself thinking about him, taking special routes around campus to run into him, and even putting off her husband to meet up with her ex. She found that her attention went from her husband to this ex boyfriend. He was a nice guy, he wasn’t trying to seduce her, or break up her marriage, they didn’t do anything physical, but emotionally she was invested in someone else other than her husband which is what emotional infidelity is. This is more common, you might hear someone say; “well, we are just friends.” This is dangerous, emotional infidelity usually leads to physical infidelity.

Many of us may feel that our marriage isn’t the same as when we were first married. It is important to work on your marriage instead, instead of putting the effort into someone who isn’t your spouse. In order to help your marriage it is important to continue dating. Dates once a week with your spouse is important, you don’t need to spend money either, watching a movie after the kids are in bed, cooking dinner at home and having dinner together. It is important to have time away in order to be together and create memories. Going to the temple often to remember your wedding vows, something that I love doing with my husband is sealings, it remind me of our wedding day and our covenants that we made to each other and the Lord. It will take a lot of work to keep a marriage going, and to keep the focus on each other, but it is possible and worth it.