Parenting (FAML 100 Topic #6)

Along with my last blog post where I talked about the importance of including the Lord in the decision making of when to start your family. The next important step is that once you have children, you partner together with your spouse to have important parenting values.

Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.

The first part of this quote I would like to focus on says; “Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.” Life can get really complicated, we can get caught up in a lot of different things and loose track of those simple teachings that Jesus Christ ahas given us. When parenting our children, we must go back to those simple teachings in the New Testament. Loving one another, serving others, loving God, and many more. I always think of the things and songs we teach in primary, and I think those are the things we should base our parenting on. Now, the way we parent is going to be different for each children, and for each family. Many time spouses will not agree on parenting techniques and will need to discuss how they will parent their children. Talking together, getting creative, and keeping the teachings close to Jesus Christ  will keep us safely on track with our parenting goals. Many times we will find ourselves going back to the way our parents parented us, we won’t agree with our spouse on things, and we will compare ourselves to other parents. This is when things will get more complicated, and its good to take a step back and go back to those basic teachings of Jesus Christ.

The second part of the quote I want to talk about is; “Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.” This is something I want to focus on because it is important especially for married couples to show love, compassion, forgiveness, respect ect for one another. In order to parent together spouses need to trust and love each other, so they ca work toward a common goal and help each other. I was raised by a single mom, she did a wonderful job, but she always tells me that it would have bee better if she didn’t have to do it o her own.

So with those two ideas in mind, coming up with a way to parent is up to the child, and the married couple. There are many parenting books, seminars, experts out there that have wonderful ideas that cater more to one family than another. While searching for our type of parenting remember to keep it focused on Jesus Christ, and maintain love and respect for one another.

Children & New Parents (FAML 100 Topic #6)

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

As members of the church, we are commanded to have children. This is a wonderful and sacred opportunity that husbands and wives can share together. This gives a child a body and the chance to experience life and gain earthly experience in order to progress and become like our Father in Heaven. We understand from prophets, apostles, scriptures, and other church leaders that having children is an important part of our earthly life, and as husband and wife, it is a commandment to bear children. So when is it a good time to start your family?

Ben and I both grew up in very different families, Ben was the youngest of 8 and I was the oldest of 4. His siblings all had around 3-5 children, and they all wanted big families. I didn’t, I was already dreading the idea of 3, and I didn’t want children right away either. This was something that Ben’s mom really pressured on us, she would send us conference talks, and hint at how we needed to have children because it was a commandment. This is why I want to focus my blog post today on the importance of having the Lord be a part of your marriage, in order to make these decisions as big as adding children to your family. For every couple, it will be different.

When a couple is married in the temple, they are also sealed to the Lord, which makes the Lord part of the marriage, and part of the decision making.  It is important to pray, express fears and feeling to one another and express goals and dreams one another has for the family and for your children. With that being said, children should always be apart of the plan. In the book; Successful Marriages and Families; is states;

The transition to parenthood is considered to be a normative stage in marriage. Foregoing that stage may affect the stability and satisfaction of the marriage.

Different stages of life provide different opportunities for growth. The way God has set up this life and marriage is for the betterment of ourselves. The world wants to change that and skip stages, or add stages, but when we are going to become like God, we need to follow his commandments.

Lastly, I want to emphasize the importance of not judging others. Each couple has their own stages, and experiences that they are going through, and choosing to have children is a personal decision that only the couple and the Lord should be apart of. It is not kind of us to judge and criticize others. Depend on the Lord, and his guidance when starting a family, express your fears, dreams, and hopes to your spouse and work together as you progress to Eternal Life.