Mother and Father Roles (FAML 100 Topic #7 & #8)

I decided to put two topics in one in order to save space on my blogs and because they go so well together.

The Mother’s Role

In The Family: A proclamation to the world, they state this about mothers.

Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.

I find it so interesting that this is the only sentence that describes the role of a mother, everything else describes both a mother and a fathers role together. Like we talked about in marriage being an equal partnership, we much remember that mothers and fathers have an equal partnership of parenting.

Now with that aside, I want to be clear that different responsibilities, talents, attributes and so on does not mean we are not equal. In order to build a house we need different tools, a hammer, saw, nails, wrench, screw driver, ect. If we have a tool box full of hammers, nothing will get done. Mothers and fathers are different, and that is what makes building our families in the gospel possible.

Mothers are nurtures, they care for their children and teach them in the gospel of Jesus Christ. I was raised by a single mom, I was 16 when my dad left. My mom was left alone to care for 4 children, one which had special needs. She was an immigrant from Brazil, no education and she had no idea how she would support us. She was the selfless person I know, she worked nights while going to school and still made it to all of our school activities. Motherhood is thinking about others than yourself, motherhood is the most selfless act anyone can make next to the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

The Father’s Role

In the Family Proclamation it states;

By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.

My father left our family when I was 16. I did not have a priesthood holder in my home, and I didn’t have a father figure. It wasn’t until I met my husband then I knew what a true, faithful, loving, father was. A father’s role is different than a mother’s role, and they work together in order to provide the best environment for their children. Fathers sometimes believe they need to be stern, tough and strict in order to fully achieve their goals as fathers. It is important to understand the truth that fathers who are loving, gentle, and kind achieve their fatherly goals better.

My husband and I have a special needs son. He was born with a very rare birth defect that makes him developmentally delayed, and in need of many complex doctors and specialists. He requires surguries, procedures, and vast medical attention. When our son was in the hospital, one of the many times, our son’s nurse approached me one day. She said; “when you look at Ben, you think he is a small guy. Small, shy, very nice. But then you get him in a room full of doctors and he is the biggest guy in the room.” She was telling me this because Ben took on his role as father and made sure to educate, ask questions, and guide our family in a time of uncertainty.  Husbands should show love, compassion, and respect to their wives in order to better teach their children.

In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.